It can feel impossibly far away.
Like you’ll never actually “get there.”
Recognizing the hard work that you’ve put in, but you can’t quite ever fully trust or fully believe that this is for you. That what you want is attainable.
And sometimes that gut feeling is clouded by expectations.
Expectations of what success should look like.
Of what health should look like.
Of what your meals should look like.
Of what your exercise regime should look like.
Of what your dreams should look like.
Of what your life should look like when A, B, or C is reached.
Run your own business. Be your own boss. Create something amazing and don’t you dare ever stop or give up because this is what you want. Right?
I say all of this because I’ve always put my worth in my hard work. In how much I work and long my days are, never stopping twice to think that maybe success can be found outside of trying to make it all work all the time. That success can be found at the core of failure, and that failure simply being a stepping stone to what you actually want. Cheesy, why yes, very much so, but also very true (for me, anyway).
I believe that I could make money through the work that I do here, and now, after much back and forth and many years spent trying to convince myself otherwise, I believe that I am worthy of that, and that feeling right there has nothing to do with whether or not it’s something that I keep pursuing.
And right now, it’s not and that’s ok (no explanation needed).
In short, you get to decide what those experiences that got you from A to B mean’t to you and why you decided to pursue them. No one else. Because any other opinions or projections are simply that, opinions and projections—stories made up based off of a world outside of your own.
Success right now might look like doing your best to reduce stress.
Spending more time reading, writing, or learning a new craft.
Figuring out how to have a better relationship with yourself and where you’re at right now.
Success might look like less and that might feel really, really good.
Success is found in all that you already are instead of the idea of future you.
I ramble on about this because I think it’s an all too important and something that is SO often overlooked. It’s important to pull inspiration from others and other places, and even the idea of what we will be like in the future, but when that begins to dictate the decisions you make now, that’s when things might no longer feel like you. That’s when your worth and how you view yourself could be clouded anything but what’s actually needed right now. By how you can best support yourself in this moment.
And these adjustments and changes, they don’t have to be extravagant, big, or life changing.
They don’t have to even be noticed by others.
But that doesn’t mean they won’t require courage and heart and a whole-heck-of-a-lot-of vulnerability.
So be proud of yourself.
Like really, really proud of yourself for having done all that you’ve done.
And remember that those successes and your worth are entirely up to you, and right now for me they are much more simplified than I ever could have imagined.
And my gosh is that refreshing.
I’ll be talking about this more in a Real Talk tomorrow, it just felt right to bring it up here first. Also, I would love to hear your thoughts on all of this. It can be icky and complicated and full of insecurities, but talking about these things as a collective surely makes it easier.
And is incredibly important.
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